The relationship bank account
1.) why is interdependence a more mature level than independence?
- Interdependence means that you depend on yourself not only physically but also mentally.
2.) why is success with self so important to succeed with others?
- This is true because if you are insecure within yourself it can be harder to interact with others.
3.) why are little things considered to be big things in relationships?
- Personally i think little things is what makes a relationship last, small thoughtful actions help throughout the relationship.
4.) consider three of your closest relationships. How well do you listen in each?
- Three of my closest relationships would be my dad, my grandmother, and my boyfriend. It is very easy to listen to my boyfriend but sometimes it can be hard to listen to my guardians because i do not always like what they are saying.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
1.)How would you describe habit 4-think win-win-in your own words?
- Habit 4 to me teaches how to get along well with the people around you.
2.) Why is the private victory a prerequisite to thinking win-win?
- This is true because if you are extremely insecure and have not paid the price to win win it will be hard to think in a positive manner.
3.) How can competitions and comparisons affect the ability to Think-Win-Win? When is "No deal"
sometimes the best solution?
- Comparisons and competitions can affect this by you beating yourself, comparing and competitions can make you more and more insecure.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
1.) Why do you think the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood?
- I think the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood because society makes people feel like outcasts, and when others understand them they feel included in the world.
2.) Which of the poor listening skills do you have the most difficulty with and what can you do to improve it?
- I personally have the most difficulty with the self centered listening because a lot of times i want to compare others opinions to things that have happened to me when in all we were talking about them.
3.) What do you think would be a deposit in a relationship bank account you have with a parent or guardian?
- I think for me the best deposit i could make with my parents is a more generous attitude and to learn to appreciate more of what they do.
4.) Why are "I" messages received more positively that "you" messages?
- I messages are more positive because most people do not want to hear the difficulties of their life and approaching the topic might make them feel uncomfortable.
Habit 6: Synergize
1.) How is synergy different than compromise or cooperation?
- Synergy is different than compromise or cooperation because with cooperation and compromise you have to give up what you necessarily do not want to give away but synergy is when you 100 percent are ok with it.
2.) In what ways does celebrating diversity differ from tolerating diversity?
- Celebrating diversity is when you completely are ok and accept it, but tolerating diversity is when you do not actually accept you but you act as if you do to please the others around you.
3.) Which of the three roadblocks to synergy (ignorance, cliques, or prejudice) do you struggle with the most?
- With my personality i think i struggle with Prejudice the most out of the roadblocks because it is extremely difficult for me to look at everything as being the same.
4.) Are you a plodder, a follower, an innovator, a harmonizer, or a show off?
- I personally am a follower and I realize that this can have both good and bad aspects but I try my hardest to work on the bad aspects and embrace the good.
