Part III Questions and answers

PART III. The public victory
     The relationship bank account
1.) why is interdependence a more mature level than independence?

• Interdependence means that you depend on yourself not only physically but also mentally. 

2.) why is success with self so important to succeed with others?

• This is true because if you are insecure within yourself it can be harder to interact with others. 

3.) why are little things considered to be big things in relationships?

• Personally i think little things is what makes a relationship last, small thoughtful actions help throughout the relationship. 

4.) consider three of your closest relationships. How well do you listen in each?

• Three of my closest relationships would be my dad, my grandmother, and my boyfriend. It is very easy to listen to my boyfriend but sometimes it can be hard to listen to my guardians because i do not always like what they are saying. 

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
1.)How would you describe habit 4-think win-win-in your own words?

• Habit 4 to me teaches how to get along well with the people around you.

2.) Why is the private victory a prerequisite to thinking win-win?

• This is true because if you are extremely insecure and have not paid the price to win win it will be hard to think in a positive manner. 

3.) How can competitions and comparisons affect the ability to Think-Win-Win? When is "No deal"
 sometimes the best solution?

• Comparisons and competitions can affect this by you beating yourself, comparing and competitions can make you more and more insecure. 

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
1.) Why do you think the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood?

• I think the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood because society makes people feel like outcasts, and when others understand them they feel included in the world. 

2.) Which of the poor listening skills do you have the most difficulty with and what can you do to improve it?

• I personally have the most difficulty with the self centered listening because a lot of times i want to compare others opinions to things that have happened to me when in all we were talking about them.

3.) What do you think would be a deposit in a relationship bank account you have with a parent or guardian?

• I think for me the best deposit i could make with my parents is a more generous attitude and to learn to appreciate more of what they do.

4.) Why are "I" messages received more positively that "you" messages?

• I messages are more positive because most people do not want to hear the difficulties of their life and approaching the topic might make them feel uncomfortable. 

Habit 6: Synergize
1.) How is synergy different than compromise or cooperation?

• Synergy is different than compromise or cooperation because with cooperation and compromise you have to give up what you necessarily do not want to give away but synergy is when you 100 percent are ok with it. 

2.) In what ways does celebrating diversity differ from tolerating diversity?

• Celebrating diversity is when you completely are ok and accept it, but tolerating diversity is when you do not actually accept you but you act as if you do to please the others around you. 

3.) Which of the three roadblocks to synergy (ignorance, cliques, or prejudice) do you struggle with the most?

• With my personality i think i struggle with Prejudice the most out of the roadblocks because it is extremely difficult for me to look at everything as being the same.

4.) Are you a plodder, a follower, an innovator, a harmonizer, or a show off?

• I personally am a follower and I realize that this can have both good and bad aspects but I try my hardest to work on the bad aspects and embrace the good.

Part IV Questions & Answers

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
1.) In which of the four dimensions do you need to spend more time?

• I personally need to work on the emotional dimension because I have always had a strong struggle of insecurity.

2.) Why is balance important?

• Balance is important in every area of life because you do not want to have too much or too little of different ideas or actions which could lead to problems throughout life. 

3.) If you stopped a current addiction, what would you do with the extra money?

• My current addiction would be my cell phone and with the extra money I would pay for more of my expenses and try to take some off of my parents.

4.) Where do you find inspiration? 

• I find my inspiration throughout God's word, there is nothing more inspirational that God's word.

Keep Hope Alive! 
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw 
1.) why is hope so critical in moving forward in life?

• Hope is critical in moving forward in life is important because throughout life you will go through tough times and tough times throughout life are easier to go through with hope.

2.) What are your unique strengths and talents ?

• It is hard for me to answer this, but i would think my strengths or talents would be the capability to talk with different people and relate to them in several ways.

3.) What will you do to make your life extraordinary?  

• I hope to be able to make my life extraordinary by serving others and showing God's light throughout my actions.

Intro to Myself:

My name is Thekla Wheat. I live in a small town named Fayette in Alabama. I am new to the whole "blogging" thing but I think I am finally getting the hang of it. I love Jesus Christ and maybe throughout my blogs you all will be able to see that. I am a 16 year old who loves to play softball, read, and run. I am currently reading several books for my tenth grade English class and I hope you can follow me up throughout the reading of these books. 

Intro to My Blog:

I created this particular blog to help my other students follow along and understand the books that I am reading as well as I can. I also created this blog so I can express my thoughts on what I am reading and trying to comprehend. I hope that my blog cannot only help myself but also help others throughout my posts. The cool thing about this blog is that you can comment and reply what you think about my posts so we can communicate with each other throughout the study of different books that I am reading at different times.

Study Guide Questions

Part I. The Setup 

Get in the Habit

Questions:

1.) How do your habits either make you or break you? 

2.) Why is it important to master the Private Victory before mastering the public victory?

Answers:

1.) Your habits can either be good habits which result in positive results or they can be bad habits which result in negative results; keep in mind that bad habits and negative results can lead to a poor reputation. 

2.) It is important to master the Private Victory before mastering the public victory because you must get your personal act in line before you can have a good behavior among others. 

Paradigms & Principles

1.) What is a Paradigm Shift?

2.) What makes friends an unstable center?

3.) Why does not centering your life on a boyfriend or girlfriend strengthen the relationship?

4.) What makes a principle-centered life stable.

Answers:

1.) A Paradigm Shift is where you suddenly see things in a new way.

2.) Friends are an unstable center because they're fickle, they're fake, and sometimes they talk behind your back or develop new friendships and forget yours. They have mood swings and they move. If you base your identity on having friends, being accepted, and being popular, you may find yourself compromising your standards or changing them every weekend to accommodate your friends.

3.) The ironic thing is that the more you center your life on someone else, the more unattractive you become to that person. If you're centered on someone, you're no longer hard to get. It is irritating when someone builds their entire emotional life around you.

4.) A principled centered life is simply most stable, immovable, unshakable foundation you can build upon. Putting principles first is the key to doing better in all the other centers. If you live the principles of service, respect, love, for instance, you're likely to pick up more friends and be a more stable boyfriend or girlfriend.

7 habits of highly effective teens

Introduction to The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens:

Based on the best-selling book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey helps students practically  apply personal leadership principles to the tough choices they encounter every day.  Harnessing relevant hands-on exercises students will laugh while they learn how to gain greater  control of their lives and build relationships high in trust. Throughout this book you will learn to do many things like:  Understand the difference between reactive and proactive behavior.  “Pause, Think, and Do”. Understand the one thing you can control is yourself . Define what’s important to you. Form a thought of where you want to be in the future. Create a personal mission statement. Set measurable academic and personal goals. Understand what your roles are. Identify and focus on important activities. Balance key priorities. Use planning tools effectively. Build relationships high in trust and confidence.  These important lessons throughout this book help readers understand the everyday struggles that teens encounter throughout their lifetime.